Religion invites us to have faith. Thus, for most people, the idea of faith is a choice. We can have faith or not have faith. From this perspective, there are people of faith and people without faith. It’s all pretty simple and clear cut.
But, if you pull the word “faith” out of its traditional religious confines and place it in a wider, existential view, it’s no longer an invitation. It’s unavoidable. Non-negotiable. You can’t not have faith. That is, it’s impossible not to live as if something is true. Every last one of us shapes and chooses a worldview. We decide what’s essentially true about this life, and then we live out that truth.
Joseph Campbell (1904-1987) said it this way: “Choose your myth, and live it with passion.”
Faith is “living as if.” As if what? Well, that’s the point. You get to fill in the blank. No one can do it for you. Not ultimately.
Sure, as children your first tenants of this faith (that is, your worldview) were supplied for you by parents and family. As you watched your parents love one another … or not. As you experienced the competence of your parents’ steady care and nurture of you … or not. As you and your family experienced the particular whimsies of joys and sufferings that unfolded for you. Out of these formative experiences you collected ideas about what was true about your life and life itself.
But, sooner or later, as you moved to adulthood, it occurred to you that not everything delivered to you as truth was necessarily true. You had options — social, theological, existential, philosophical, academic.
See my list of all the reasons to quit/ Not smooth enough, tough enough, inferior fit/ And all the voices saying, “Why don’t you just step aside”/ “How dare you dare to reach so high,” they’re asking for my suicide/ One hand open, the other a fist/ I guess I’ll have to live as if/ See me tearing up my list.
The choice is not whether to have or not have a worldview in which you place faith. The only choice is whether we are willing to be conscious of that worldview. To choose it with intention, clarity and commitment. When our deepest beliefs about self and life are conscious, then we have choices.
See my beloved and me in a bitter rift/ Trying to remember why this love is such a gift/ I want to fly away and find me something easier/ I don’t feel much in love right now, what did I ever see in her/ What do we hold on to while we search for what we missed/ I guess we’ll have to live as if/ I think we’re called to live as if.
Faith is “living as if.” All the choices are ours. We can live as if there is an inherent goodness in the human heart deserved of our seeking. Or we are free to live as if no one can or should be trusted. We should in every moment protect ourselves at all costs. We can live as if it is our very birthright to be loved and respected. ’ Or we can live believing deeply that we are far too flawed and broken to rightly expect love and respect. Perhaps maximizing pleasure and minimizing pain is Life’s most noble pursuit.
Then again, perhaps you prefer to subordinate equations of pain and pleasure, passing comfort or discomfort for the very different goal of commitment to a beloved’s best interest.
Faith is “living as if.” Perhaps you’ve heard people say, “It doesn’t matter what you believe, as long as you’re sincere.” To that I say “yikes.” It matters very much what we believe. The worldview in which we have faith is consequential for us and everyone around us.
What do you believe deeply? The next question is, how do those beliefs serve you? And, then, the 24 million dollar question: Is it time to believe something else?
Steven Kalas is a behavioral health consultant and counselor at Las Vegas Psychiatry and the author of “Human Matters: Wise and Witty Counsel on Relationships, Parenting, Grief and Doing the Right Thing” (Stephens Press). Contact him at firstname.lastname@example.org